Parviz Porzor - Assistant Professor of Psychology, University of Mohaghegh Ardabili, Adebil, Iran.
Hoora Ghorbani polkoei - Master of family counseling, University of Mohaghegh Ardabili, Ardebil, Iran.

Objective: Divorce is one of the social and family problems that all sections of society are affected in some way. This study was conducted to investigate the effect of self-compassion, patience and Islamic optimism on the tendency to divorce couples in Rasht. Methods: The method of this research was correlational and the method of data analysis was practical in terms of purpose. This study was performed on ۲۰۰ married men and women in Rasht in ۲۰۲۰. The respondents were selected by available random sampling. For data collection, Roosevelt, Johnson & Moro Divorce Tendency Scale, Nef Self-Compassion Questionnaire, Date Patience Scale and Nouri Islamic Optimism Questionnaire were used and then the data were analyzed by SPSS۲۶ software. Results: Findings showed a significant and negative correlation between self-compassion (r = -۰.۴۳), patience (r = -۰.۱۷) and Islamic optimism (r = -۰.۳۲) with a tendency to divorce. Also, there was a significant negative relationship with confidence (P <۰.۰۵). The results of regression analysis showed that these three variables predict ۲۳% of the variance of the tendency to divorce (P <۰.۰۵). Conclusion: According the results of this study, the couples experience less tendency to divorce with more compassion, patience and Islamic optimism. The study of the degree of self-compassion in couples and also the study of patience and optimism in them, provides a more complete understanding of the factors involved in the phenomenon of the tendency to divorce in couples. It can be concluded that self-compassion and religiosity have an effect on improving the strategies for maintaining the couple's relationship.

Tendency to divorce, Compassion, Patience, Islamic optimism, couples